Someone call Greek Goddess Aphrodite.
It’s been a while since I had real-life sex. Indeed, not counting my zingy sex device and one very potent eternal fantasy. Some people never leave your soul once encountered. They become a sexy, beautiful ache.
Lingering.
God gives us the strength to accept what we don’t understand.
Namaste.
Because as much as I’d like, I cannot yank a soul-lingering guy through time and space to show him how I feel or share my bed. And man, I need the real thing in my life sooner or later. I’m not dead yet. I want to make real-life love again. I want to fall in love with someone and experience a slice of sexy heaven before my time is up.
Surely, that matters?
More so now that I’ve created the space to receive new love.
Let’s unpack this together.
“Soon, you’ll realize that many people will love the idea of you but lack the maturity to handle the reality of you.”
— Reyna Biddy.
When it comes to men.
As some women (not all) mature, they’ll create space in their life to receive the kind of lover they yearn to experience. Some of us take a good hard look around and realize the gravity of time left here on earth. So, we may take a breath and make life-altering changes as we crave to reach for something that we can feel beautifully touching us energetically and physically.
We want something euphoric, profound, and magical.
Something sacred, even.
That’s me right now. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but I can taste just the tip of it long enough to attempt to find the right words. So, here goes:
There are women out there who, like me, want to experience boundless intimate exploration with someone and know what it feels like to be with a sexually intelligent man. Someone rooted in his ability to evoke our sensuality with a keen understanding of our system can distinguish how to move energetically in our presence.
From the delicate kisses on the nape of her neck to the tender embrace to stimulating conversation to collaborative creativity to acceptance to cosmically fucking her heart wide open and everything else in between.
Essence.
Sensuality.
Sexuality.
Spirit.
Fusion.
= Rapture.
Women like me want men like this.
It’s a powerful dynamic that precipitates the absolute realness — the crux and pulse of what lies beyond our flesh and blood to potentially create the kind of relationship we all must one day return to, in this life or the next. I’m talking about a conscious connection fueled and nourished by the flames of the soul, bound by the heart, awakened by spirit.
Elevation, baby.
I need a moment to liberate myself.
Then let him imprint his touch on my body and create a new way of being in sexual awareness and togetherness. Let’s you and I access more profound levels of feeling, sensation, higher states of being, energy, and ultimately more of who we really are.
Are you ready for this?
Let’s f***king go!
Get ready for sex again after a long hiatus.
“I want a new life, and I want it with you.”
Make space for your heart’s desire.
If you’re like me and it’s been a while since you’ve last done the hot dirty deed, getting intimate with someone new is both exciting and daunting.
Exciting because I’ve created the space — opened the path — in my life to receive the kind of lover I want to experience, and daunting because I know it also means a certain level of vulnerability and trust on my part. Still, I cannot help but feel a kittenish twinge on my psyche about what’s coming.
Meow.
Because I know what’s possible.
After two marriages, I’ve had enough experience with men to clarify what I want and don’t want in a lover. As a result, I’ve wised up a bit. Grown and changed and become who I am without apologizing a bit. In the process, I’ve made space for my heart’s desires, and I won’t settle for anything less than a man who can love and honor me to the same degree.
Getting clear about what you want is the most critical aspect of inviting the right person into your life because you will always attract someone on the same frequency as yourself.
Mistreatment, stupid games, dishonesty, confusion, immaturity — no thanks. So, I’m focusing on my point of attraction while tapping into the power of my heart’s desire.
This means:
My fingers are always on the pulse of what I really want.
I allow my desires to lead me — to pull me toward growth, change, and expansion.
Yet, I am grounded by the cravings of my body.
I am often in sync with overwhelming feelings of gratitude and appreciation.
I’ve also developed a deep, almost blinding faith in the path unseen — what has not yet made manifest.
I practice connecting to my inner heart where my body and breath are in the present moment — where compassion and love exist.
Then;
Embrace the depth of your pleasure
I’m not going to lie. Life is pretty full-on for me right now. I’m a single working mother, so I seldom have a full day at home to stop and smell the proverbial roses. Let alone write all day as I used to (mega pleasure point for me). But as much as I can, I steal the moments to embrace the feelings that give meaning to my experiences.
Emotions stir us.
Our emotions are our inner barometers, our biologically adapted orientation system. They are, in fact, an internal communication network that connects the incidents, the relationships, and the experiences that make up our lives. In truth, we can lead a complete, authentic, and actualized life only when we feel deeply.
Be your own guiding force in self-exploration.
Be with what is.
Give yourself compassion.
Explore your pleasures and notice what feels good.
Look for pleasure in everything you do by asking, “how can I make this feel good to me?”
Practice the art of embracing your pleasures by arousing your senses –
Through music.
Through moving your body (I enjoy yoga and dancing).
Through walking in nature.
Through touching your body.
Through having friendships and great conversations that stretch and challenge you.
Through new tastes and sensations that make your mouth water and your spirit ripple delight.
Through infusing sensuality into your life.
Sidenote: Pleasure does not always revolve around sex and isn’t defined by the intimacy you share with others. My advice is to start within. Exploring yourself first is key to understanding what you want and allowing yourself to receive it.
Let’s f***king go?
It’s been a while since you last had real-life sex, but if you focus on yourself — your heart’s desires and embrace your pleasures, you’ll find yourself ready when that special someone appears in your life.
Still, you can keep your mindless, meaningless sex to yourself, baby. Women like me will hold out for sexual experiences that bring comprehensive benefits to our lives. We want the kind of lovemaking that invokes God’s essence, divine consciousness, cosmos, or whatever you want to call it.
“I want a new life, and I want it with you.”
Many mature women want a man aligned with our frequency who can give our body and soul something worth reaching for. Someone who will evoke and inspire our femininity and sensuality neither chases with sex-starved energy nor totally avoids us. Instead, he exists alongside us based on his already knowing himself to a certain degree. But, of course, this means he will need to apply an acute awareness to how he is being received on the deepest levels of our being and vice versa.
Sounds delicious, does it not?
I want to digest it. Question it. Long for it. Experience it. Be blessed by it. Then, I will raise up the sensuality factor to reach for more of it.
And then more.
And then more…
Meow.